How to Transform Pain Into Power: From DISAPPOINTMENT to PEACE

Is Grief and Disappointment Holding You Back?

Have you ever thought that sometimes life doesn’t turn out the way you thought it would? 

Naturally part of our deal of being alive is we get to have experiences. Some great, some not so great, and some that leave us with a heavy feeling we can't quite shake.

When we think of grief and disappointment, maybe the death of a loved one comes up, or the shock of losing a job. But have you considered the impact of the mundane sorrows, like the loss of your health, or the disappointment you feel when you look in the mirror?

Hey, we’re doing the best we can to navigate life, and sometimes the idea of pausing to feel grief and disappointment can feel decadent if you have no time. 

But here’s the thing, that health diagnosis, money struggles, or a relationship gone wrong is still there. It lingers... like a dull ache in your chest.

In my "Reveal and Heal Obstacles to Your Success™" program, I explain how unresolved disappointment, trauma and grief can secretly wreak havoc, increasing inflammation, spiking blood pressure, and disrupting immunity. Yep, it’s that serious!

(Fortunately, this deep dive program actually goes deeper and helps you release the pain of your past. Click the link above to take a look.)

But here's the good news:
You can turn disappointment into deep peace,  and even regain your confidence and POWER. ✨

• You don’t have to carry the weight forever.
• You can heal it.
• You can free yourself. 

In This Blog, You’ll Learn: 

1. 💥 The 4 Sneaky Types of Disappointment That Can Drain You
1. 💸 Money
2. 🩺 Health
3. 💞 Relationships
4. 👁️ Body Images
2. 🌍 How Cultural Beliefs Shape How We Deal With Grief
3. 🛠️ 5 Simple Healing Tips to Shift From Grief to Peace
4. How The Invoke And Release® Healing Circle Helps You Release Old Wounds and Finally Find Peace

The 4 Sneaky Types of Disappointment That Can Drain You

Disappointment doesn’t always show up with a sign. Sometimes it hides in your money patterns, your health frustrations, your relationships, or the mirror.

Let’s break down the 4 common areas where grief hides and silently drains your peace and power.

1. MONEY: When Abundance Feels Out of Reach

Disappointment with money doesn’t just live in our wallets, it lives in our nervous system. Especially if you’re holding a grudge against yourself for past money mistakes. 

Do any of these feel familiar?

• Feeling like you're always behind 
• Over-giving to feel worthy
• Resentment of others who “have more”
• Spending to self-soothe
• Blaming external forces for your financial story

Think of money like a real relationship.
→ If we criticize it, chase it, or blame it, we’re not in a very healthy relationship are we? (Yes, couples therapist over here writing this!)

The good news? We have the power to improve our relationship with money. 

✨ What helps?

• Reflect on past money wounds and forgive yourself or others.
• Practice gratitude for what you do have
• Reframe scarcity into possibility

2. HEALTH: When Your Body Feels Like the Enemy 

From diagnoses to flare-ups, chronic conditions to food sensitivities, it’s easy to fall into the “why me?” spiral.

Let yourself grieve, feel disappointed, feel that anger, then relax into loving your body. It might not seem fair, but when we brace against the moment, our body inflames and feels worse. Unresolved emotions don’t just disappear. 

As Woody Allen joked: "I never get angry. I just grow a tumor."

Gabor Maté's book, When the Body Says No, shows how suppressed disappointment and self-neglect can affect physical health, especially for those in toxic or overly demanding relationships.

✨ What helps?

• Give space for anger, grief, and frustration
• Build a new relationship with your body, one rooted in respect
• Let your body be your ally, not your enemy

3. RELATIONSHIPS: When Love Is Disappointing

Some of us were raised in cultures and households where “we” mattered more than “I.”
→ Where speaking up was punished.
→ Where love meant pleasing, enduring, and never rocking the boat.

This is not everyone’s pattern, but does it sound familiar to you?

Here’s what often shows up as an adult:

• Staying small to avoid rejection
• Tolerating mistreatment out of fear of abandonment
• Losing yourself trying to meet others’ expectations

✨ What helps?

• Set clear, kind boundaries
• Practice remembering you’re equally important
• Remembering that you have a right to your rules

4.   BODY IMAGE: When You Don't Feel at Home in Your Skin 

Joseph Campbell said, 

“The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are.” 

And yet, how often do we really believe that?

I often hear clients say: 

• “I should look younger.”
• “My body should be smaller.”
• “I’d be lovable if I looked different.”

Ask yourself:

• “Where did I learn I wasn’t okay the way I am?”
• “Who benefits when I hate my body?”
• “What if I already AM enough?”

✨ What helps?

• Question unrealistic beauty standards
• Embrace your body as it is, today, not “someday”
• Be honored to look like you

How Cultural Beliefs Shape How We Deal With Grief and Disappointment 

We all experience the world through the lens of trying to feel safe, accepted and loved, but we all go about it in slightly different ways. Feeling safe and loved through:

• Adoration and attention
• Being invisible and ignored
• Being seen as the authority
• Playing small to feel cared for
• Feeling needed

And there are so many other lenses we humans use. 

Back in my upbringing, the focus wasn’t on how we looked, but on being respectful and helpful.  

The emphasis was more about modesty, reputation, and doing what’s expected. Things like preserving virginity or “acting appropriately” held more weight than being stylish or thin.

So in some ways, I was spared from the beauty pressures others faced. When I looked through magazines, I never thought I should look like them. 

The models didn’t look like anyone I knew.
They seemed… fragile. Like they needed a proper meal.
And even though I loved the red lipsticks in the magazines, my lens to feeling safe and loved was more preoccupied with being kind and helpful, versus how I looked. (Also, a fast track to burnout.)

One strategy is not better than another, again, we all have our lens of how we navigate life.

We all carry messages from our upbringing that shape how we feel about grief, anger, and self-image.

It’s time to gently untangle them.

5 Simple Healing Tips to Shift From Grief to Peace 

• Embrace Your Money Story

Ask yourself:

“What disappointment am I still holding about money?”

Write to your money. Thank your money, then let it go.

• Feel Everything Fully 

When life throws health challenges your way, don't sweep those emotions under the rug. 

Don’t bottle it up.

Cry. Rage. Breathe.

You’re not too sensitive. You’re human.

• Say No (While seated in your authority)

Boundaries aren't walls, they’re DOORS to better relationships.

If they leave because you said “no”? Let them go. 

• Love the Skin You're In

Your body is not a before-and-after pic.

It’s your home. Your mirror. Your ally.

Be honored to be you.

Your body is beautiful because it's yours.

• Rewrite the Old Script

Who told you disappointment is weakness?

Who told you anger was dangerous?

Rewrite. Reclaim. Rise. 

Want to Go Deeper in Your Healing?

If you’re ready to release old wounds and finally find peace, explore the Transforming Disappointment and Grief to Peace class inside the Invoke and Release® Healing Circle.

The healing method Invoke and Release® is a powerful tool that helps you release emotional trauma so you can feel free to live the life you want.

What the Invoke and Release® Healing Modality Can Do for You:

• Reduce stress so you can focus and reach your goals
• Sleep better so you wake up refreshed and get more done
• Clear energy blocks to feel calm, balanced, and in flow

What You’ll Get from Joining the 

Invoke and Release® Healing Circle:

• Let go of emotional pain and feel close to others again
• Build happy, healthy relationships that lift you up
• Create more flow and abundance in every part of your life

If it’s time for you to Transform Disappointment and Grief to Peace, look into the Invoke and Release® Healing Circle. With an open heart, you can find the support and tools you need to feel more peaceful and strong inside.

Important Links:

Woody Allen

Joseph Campbell

Reveal and Heal Obstacles to Your Success™

What is Invoke and Release®?

Invoke and Release® Healing Circle

Invoke and Release® website

Helpful blogs:

Why is Healing Trauma Important

Your Body as Your Healing Ally

5 Ways to Improve Your Relationship with Money

Recommended book:

Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief

It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand

When the Body Says No by Gabor Maté